There are days where a parent's head can just spin. There are so many things to decide. Where do I learn about my child's diagnosis? How do I pursue his education? What doctors do we see? Whose advice do I follow when professionals and other parents give conflicting information? Do we keep the diagnosis to ourselves or tell the whole world? How do I tell my child about the diagnosis and when? How do I explain everything to my other children? These are just a few of the decisions that parents need to consider.
It is so important that both parents are on the same page. If there is a big divide between them on what to do for a child, slow down. Take time to work through these things so each parent is supportive and is "all in." It will save a lot of stress and conflict later on.
Once there is consensus, move forward helping your child.