There came a point in my life where I had to become a therapy mom. I felt it was the only chance we had to make progress in my son's life. It was not without sacrifice. Not just for me. There was sacrifice on everyone's part in our family.
My husband had to cover things in our schedule that I had always done as a stay at home mom. It was new world for him. He gave up many of his vacation days to take our son away on trips so I could do special activities with our daughters.
Our daughters had to accept a new normal. I wasn't as available for all the little things like helping them put together a outfit for 50's Day during homecoming week. There was a different parenting style for their brother than they had experienced. It wasn't always easy for them. Many times they thought my husband and I had lost all common sense when it came to the way we were dealing with our son. There were many intense discussions. I just wanted them to deal with things. I didn't need any more guilt and frustration. Looking back, I am so glad I didn't get my wish. It was important for them to express how they felt. It was important for my husband and I to hear their hearts. I believe this kind of dialogue helped us all. I have to say my daughters have come to understand children with learning differences and have a heart for these children.
I will mention extended family. We have never lived close to extended family so I have not dealt with this as much as many others. It can be a very difficult process. This therapy approach may change the way your immediate family participates in birthdays, holidays and vacation with extended family. There are no magic formulas. It may take a lot of time and patience to help your extended family come to grips with your new normal. It may come in varying degrees. There maybe some who just don't "get it." It may hurt or be discouraging. Try not to let it bother you. Focus on those who are supportive. Keep your eyes on the things that are positive.
Not one person in your family wanted this new normal but it is what is necessary. Help the rest of your family embrace it. You, as the mom, can model the attitude you want everyone else to take on.
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