But how do I survive? How can my child do well with this whole holiday thing? Here are a few ideas.
Talk to the host of each gathering. Share your need for a schedule with times that the meal will be served and what will be on the menu. Bring food for this child if you need her to stay on a specific diet. Ask the hostess/host for a place she can eat that is quieter and not over stimulating.
Make the visit short, if possible. This will give a better chance for success.
Prepare your child for the things you are aware. Try to think of possible scenarios that “could” occur. Come up with a plan for those situations. Go over all of these with your child several times.
Take a sensory kit or familiar toys that your child can play. Ahead of time, ask the host/hostess for a space that your child can use to nap or calm down if things become overwhelming.
Take some visual supports to the event that can be used in lieu of verbal communication especially if your child is over stimulated
Concentrate on your child, don’t worry about what other opinions are. There is no perfect way to parent so don’t let any of your relatives get “under your skin.” Save your emotional energy to parent your child/ren.
Remember, every year is a learning experience for everyone involved. This isn’t a social situation that can be practiced often. Often, it takes several years of practice before things get easier. Realize this and try to relax and allow your family celebration to happen. Join in as much as you can but manage your stress. It will help your child.
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