Many of these children have "hidden disability." If a child has autism, ADHD, PTSD, OCD, sensory issues or anxiety difficulties, the holidays bring lots of challenges. It is hidden because this child often resemble many of the siblings and cousins at a Christmas gathering. The only thing that distinguishes this child is behavior and many times, lots of it. What are parents to do?
Since this child doesn't look like he has a disability, it is hard to wrangle up the support needed from the extended family. Often, the child is pegged by the family as naughty. The parents are also marked too lenient and generally, bad parents.
This is not a battle to fight on the week of Christmas. This week is about surviving. Eventually, thriving would be good but for now surviving is good enough.
Take breaks from the chaos of over stimulation. Take a walk with your child. Find an empty room where this child can decompress. Help him get some exercise during the celebration. Prepare him for the present opening and for the family meal. Preparation is essential to help him understand what is coming next. If he can predict what he is suppose to do and what will be happening, it will help him. This may not solve every behavior problem but it is likely to help. Include behavior expectations for each part of these activities. Come late and leave early. A little bit of positive family time is better than too much leading to meltdowns.
Merry Christmas!
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